Parents and children
Do not worry, I will not deal with a treatise on the relationship between parents and children. Mille processed billions of treaties, and detailed written by thousands and billions of super-experts do not cover all facets of this relationship.
Parents and children: the relationship more difficult in the world. The report that more than others, in my opinion, is at the mercy of the times. The relationship can not have codes. The report errors to risk more than any other. The relationship that can cause untold damage.
Because those children become adults and will be tomorrow's society.
said, should assure you that my inability to write, deals this topic from my point of view, from my experience, and attention that I have always had for the "children".
Meanwhile, declare that they are always on the side of the "children".
I do not think all the guys have responsibility for their behavior. What did the adults to teach them something else? That 's what I feel the pivot of the debate.
It makes a lot of talk, at this time.
In Turin, a boy is taunted by other students, filmed and showed to the world, a boy in Germany killed in a school to become a hero, in cities and towns and raping teenagers scare her school friends, and then those who kill mother and brother, children tied up in a kindergarten, the principal who punishes two boys kissing in ' range, and finally, again in the usual squalid America, a South Korean boy killed thirty-three classmates and teachers ..
short, episodes of different scales, however, complain that a deep malaise, a profound confusion among adults.
The family and the school, places of protection, become places of violence.
And we see parents and teachers no longer united by the spirit of collaboration, but because of opposition to the parents, to defend themselves, defend their children recklessly. And guys, what do you want? They feel backed and their relationship with adults becomes a challenge if you're afraid of me, I attack you, bark louder.
professor emeritus, a comment from one of the acts of violence consumed by teenagers on other teenagers rely on television, more time for parents, more listening, more availability, more attention.
But how can you think of giving time, availability, be careful if you have not done for 13, 14, 15 years? Suddenly, according to professor emeritus, one morning the parents state that they want to give more time, more availability, more attention.
think that the children understand?
listening, time, attention are behaviors that parents should give the time of the birth of their children. Just so you could say to his son: I am willing to give you "more." But if that "more" part from the sense that nothing can have?
Who are these parents today? Where do they come and what routes have made? The father figure was always pushing their children to a function of emancipation. The father has no role in education generally. The mother does have the function of acceptance and satisfaction of the needs of the child. We think breastfeeding. Only thirty years ago if a woman is not nursing felt "guilty" of depriving the child of an essential nutrient. Then, thanks many modern educational theories about behavior, we moved to the fashionable formula. He took off the child, and also to the mother, the moment of more intense relationship between them, the nurse is the dependence of the child from the mother and if it deprives you attorney trauma.
It seems that today, mothers in their forties, have found breast-feeding and do not want to deprive themselves, they (in my opinion), this experience.
However, the division of roles between father and mother is quite easy to analyze the situation that we have under our eyes.
Fathers. I do not think that today the role of fathers of adolescents is to address them to emancipation. They are in their forties, in most cases, dissatisfied of their position in society or committed to making a successful career in which they identify. Often dependent on their wives, their children time to undertake a football match on television or at most in the stadium. Semblance of backslapping and camaraderie. But the turmoil of the teenage son who knows? What the child is taking the company in which he lives, what do they know? And they know of his behavior at school, with classmates, friends? Its difficulties intimate?
Mothers. Increased after feminism, when women burned bras with many feelings, so much "that being a woman" who now seeks to recover wearing an "intimate" publicized and expensive, are aggressive and tired.
But she knows where? In my opinion, no. The woman now believes he has conquered important place in society. In consumer society, though. Because she is an object of consumption. And if the past has fought to avoid being the object of man-woman, Today, we can see a model of women as objects of herself, so she seeks to exploit his image, his body. Episodes chronicle the highlight.
At least that's what you see, that the adolescents they see. It 's true, women are everywhere: they are judges and police officers, sailors and the chairmen of the board, the gynecologists. The careers are open, have the right shares rose.
. But the real essence of the woman, the one who gave the "real" power, the power to educate, to train generations of "Administer" the family, those who exercise that power? Running behind a fictitious power, to a semblance of conquest, a short-lived freedom that has put up a plan ambiguous and dangerous?
Yes, I know that most women complain. But why not make a honest analysis of the errors that are obvious to all on the behavior of adolescents?
The men hate women. They've always feared. They know well that she will always dominate.
Umberto Galimberti, in a wonderful article on women tortured in Baghdad said that the woman may be able to torture, because no one knows your body better than you. That body that allows it to generate and make the world go round. There were tribe (do not know if the custom is still present), who cut the woman's breasts to hit there where it comes from his power: motherhood, men who now rape when sexual freedom is absolute, the power that seeks to control it by setting quotas rose. Even conferences on women, or the laws that Priority should be given, not a way of segregation? "You're something else, you belong to another sphere. 'S why we're talking about you. "
When I started working, participating in meetings where men and women, I became aware of breathlessness women have to be as brave. I said, "I do not want to be like them." I do not seem interested in the most good, considering it more important to "be" and that's it.
are years-long competition. It seems that the only purpose of a woman's life is put man in difficulty to prevail, to win.
But win what? Do you think that now she is winning?
from women as objects of man, the woman fought right to women as objects for itself. Now she runs his body, exposing it with no style and no cunning, to get the benefit of arriving at goals that, frankly, do not give it confer prestige but only contempt and disregard the greater man.
Why so many single women? Because the man's desire has declined dramatically?
does not mention that in all the most popular magazine, the decrease in sexual desire. Great service with rates and comparisons between Western countries. Africa, and the eastern country, fortunately we do not know anything yet.
But when you talk about a topic does not mean that there is a big problem?
I wish to close commenting on the latest American massacre. Television broadcasts have dissected the . It has been said that the killers are usually young people frustrated, which discharge their failures on others, that 30 years have increased the bloodshed. The expert panel will then ask: is it possible that humanity has become so much more evil? Some say yes, and those who say no. But no one said a sentence of the letter left by the boy guilty of the rich (not exactly carry over). This money shamelessly exhibited at all times, between large and small, says nothing to the experts? And the famous "values" that were buried by the glorification of money, does not suggest anything? And parents, do not feel even a little 'responsible for much of all that is given to children because it is more expeditious to who dedicate time and patience and affection?
end with this reflection. I do not know how to serve. I'd be happy if at least one person plucked.
